[AtLast]

I tend to be called male pronouns often and I prefer female. I don't really get upset with this unless someone as Thinker points out, is fu**ing with me. Which does happen. I just correct people in a courteous manner if they use male pronouns with me.

On the other side of this, I make an effort to find out what another person prefers. Outward appearance just doesn't work well with this and I feel that it is just as important for me to use the pronouns someone else prefers as it is to learn their name or pronounce it correctly.

It's interesting to me that on the site, even with my stating I prefer she, her, etc., a lot of people will use male pronouns. I was glad to see that the Planet made room for this designation in the profile structure, so this does kind of disappoint me. I look at what members state in that box all of the time because I do think it's important and the respectful thing to do. I appreciate it when someone asks me about this lets say when I have asked them out. It isn’t just about me, it’s about honoring the fact that gender has evolved away from the traditional binary and that people do have personal preferences. Gender has become more fluid within and outside of our community.

I have at times felt annoyed when someone calls me him or he and can understand why someone that is male-identified or a FtM can feel annoyed and there have been times when I have not felt like being flexible because being referred to as such happens so much within the B-F community. And I am amazed at this sometimes, because it just seems like we ought to be more sensitive about this.

Looks to me like all butches, no matter how they identify have problems with this!