[Kenna]

"Your son is now my son. In the summer I'm going to buy us airplane tickets to go see him in Colorado so you can intoduce me to him. Does he have an extra bedroom where we can stay?"


I about choked on my sweet tea! Since my son was 6 years old, I learned that I do NOT believe in a "Revolving Door" in a child's life, even if that child is now an adult. If *you* haven't earned the right to be introduced and I'm not confident that *you* will be around FOREVER and *you* haven't shown me that you're a stable individual, *you* won't be permitted anywhere near my son...or my nieces for that matter. Stability and Security is the key here. If someone I'm dating is on a "just dating" status ...or in the early phases of getting to know each other...my kids are not on the dating agenda....and I raised my kid alone for 17 years, he doesn't need anyone to "claim him" as their own just because they are dating me.
These are my beliefs...
A child's mind is very fragile when it comes to making bonds with new people in their lives... and a bond with their parent(s) should never be tested by someone that's on a Revolving Door status. It plays too much with a child's emotions if they start to bond with their parent's new dating interests, then when the dating thing doesn't work out...that leaves the kid with a void they don't understand or could be very hurtful to them. Sometimes when a relationship ends, there is some sort of grieving that takes places. Either grieving the loss of a friendship or intimacy or bonding connection...I'm fiercely protective of my kids and will try to prevent them from grieving such things.