11-11-2013, 06:02 AM
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Originally Posted by honeybarbara
everyone is still, even though ive said it four times now doing this
heteronormative ritual = bad.
yes of course I got my feminine rituals from a white middle class heteronrmative culture. duh. I didnt grow up in a vaccume. I had to do years and years of work to understand which things I was doing because I adored them and which things I did because I was afaird not to, or which things I did because I hadn't thougjt about not doing them.
it took me a good 8 years of pretty full on self deconstruction.
if I took someone's name I would be doing it by choose but its *still* a white European heterosexual ritual. to say it isnt is like saying you got it from matrians or made it up yourself. do I own that it is (acknowledge this where I borrowing it from?). YES.
why is that so hard? I took some Jewish dutch heterosexual rituals too, cause that was my wife's back ground and her upbringing.
I dont see people really grasping what I'm saying yet.
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i thought it was a given that we adopted this practice as most of out other ones from straight folks.
Not sure what you were exactly looking for, but for me, it was just a given.
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