Honesty should always be respectful but there are times when you just have to be blunt...i.e. if the other party just doesn't seem to be getting the message. I run into this all the time at work and have found that it's usually because the client has an unrealistic notion stuck in their head.
It's possible to be blunt without being rude. Not that I am condoning rudeness but there are times when that's all you've got left. And it is possible to do this without being intentionally hurtful or hateful...how the other party interprets your words is up to them. There's never any justifiable reason (at least for me) to be mean.
Something I've learned over the years...first and foremost, you have to be honest with yourself. Not always pleasant but necessary.
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