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Dude · 03-15-2013, 06:42 PM

Honesty is hard, sometimes awkward and many times embarrassing
but I give it and want it.

I have learned to say things like , I liked your hair better before

I have been reading everything I can get my hands on about
passive aggressive behaviour and how to not get sucked into it myself ,
with a few co workers.
What I have read is it is also a form of dishonesty.
If people cant be honest with themselves about how they are
feeling and why , they sure as hell ain't gonna be honest with you.
The only healthy option is to disengage and not get caught up in the crazy making.

I told myself , I was stinky today. Stress sweat is way stinkier

The people who tell me I've got grease on my face or my zipper
is down are all keepers. The people who let me walk around like
that all fucking day , not so much.
Boogers are a part of life too and I want to know about them if one should come a creepin ( sure as shit , you know they will , somehow , someway , someday)
I have one friend at work who asks me if any bats are coming out of his cave.
I don't like looking but he knows I wont lie and I like that.

I am sensitive. I think the good parts of me would not be there, if I was not.
I've had people keep the truth from me , deciding for me whether
I could handle it or not. If you want to insult me to the core , do this.
That is a form of codependency (control) and not welcomed in my world.
If you deserve the truth , so do I.

I could not be with someone who did not appreciate attractive people.
You have to have trust to do that comfortably.
Trust comes from honesty on every level , at least for me.
Never is there too much honesty but kindness in the delivery are huge to the outcome.

03-15-2013, 06:42 PM	#29
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,606 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Honesty is hard, sometimes awkward and many times embarrassing but I give it and want it. I have learned to say things like , I liked your hair better before I have been reading everything I can get my hands on about passive aggressive behaviour and how to not get sucked into it myself , with a few co workers. What I have read is it is also a form of dishonesty. If people cant be honest with themselves about how they are feeling and why , they sure as hell ain't gonna be honest with you. The only healthy option is to disengage and not get caught up in the crazy making. I told myself , I was stinky today. Stress sweat is way stinkier The people who tell me I've got grease on my face or my zipper is down are all keepers. The people who let me walk around like that all fucking day , not so much. Boogers are a part of life too and I want to know about them if one should come a creepin ( sure as shit , you know they will , somehow , someway , someday) I have one friend at work who asks me if any bats are coming out of his cave. I don't like looking but he knows I wont lie and I like that. I am sensitive. I think the good parts of me would not be there, if I was not. I've had people keep the truth from me , deciding for me whether I could handle it or not. If you want to insult me to the core , do this. That is a form of codependency (control) and not welcomed in my world. If you deserve the truth , so do I. I could not be with someone who did not appreciate attractive people. You have to have trust to do that comfortably. Trust comes from honesty on every level , at least for me. Never is there too much honesty but kindness in the delivery are huge to the outcome.