10-20-2017, 04:21 AM
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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly
I came out at the age of 38, chucking aside a perfectly fine marriage with a perfectly fine man. Except it all was a lie.
My Dad passed away before I could tell him, and my mom said “oh, ok”. My sister was furious and didn’t speak to me for weeks...she finally told me that she was upset because I hadn’t told her sooner that I was living a lie.
No one in my family cared one way or the other, in fact I have a lesbian cousin who came out before I did.
I really feel badly for all of you who did not have support from the very people who were supposed to have your backs no matter what.
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i agree. Support would make SUCH a difference!
i did the whole marriage/family thing too, trying to *fix my gay*. It was a sad attempt to prove that normal families do exist and i was going to create one (never works!). Also to prove to myself and the world that i was not gay (never works) .. by the time i came out i was such a mess i cannot even explain how bad it was. i feel bad that i brought two human beings into the world in my attempt to make things right in my head, even though they are amazing human beings.
While i LOVE the family that i did create, i wish i would have felt i had more options, like to just be gay. My path would have been so much different.
i knew since i was a young girl i was different, and tried to fix myself in all the wrong ways.
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