I haven't had a chance to read this whole thread, so if I'm repeating someone else I am sorry
I saw this new movie with Annette Benning and Julianne Moore this past weekend...a really good movie about a Lesbian couple and their children.
Annette was a "butch type" character in dress and such, but there was zero butch energy from her and it was a bit distracting. I really think they should have found a butch actor for the role. It was however the best movie I have seen in a long time, but leave the kids at home; a lot of Adult only content.
If you get a chance to see it, it is worth the $11.00.