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Originally Posted by honeybarbara
I know blocking can cause ramifications. that's why I suggested setting up a rule to "bin" her emails for a while. She won't know as she won't be blocked and you don't get the letters.
It's very hard to get to the place where you won't feel responsible for her feelings. It took me three years with one of my exes. till at one point, it just snapped.
Also, if people are trying to control you in that way, looking at al-anon tools for co-dependancy (not saying you are by any means!!! it's just some of the tools are very, very handy for dealing with emotional black mail) or this book:
Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You (clicky)
I found fantastic to deal with threats of self harm, bullying, etc. I've had some charmers in my life because I couldn't disarm the buttons they use. This book teaches you how to remove the buttons. |
What an awesome link. Emotional blackmail is by far the worst thing I have experienced....it was difficult to bounce back from and it is easy to recognize when that is happening...
Thank you for posting that link. Some good stuff.
The sad part is it happens all the time and some folks just do not realize it until later on.