I think the last few posts pretty much sum up what I was getting at with romance. It's a spectrum from zero to sixty.
If I showed up with flowers I'd...
1. scare off Cupcake
2. piss off Martina
3. get a date with Sleepy
When what I'd really be meaning is; I'm showing interest and wanting to make a good impression. (NOT asking for sex or proposing marriage though)
If I'm head over heels I'll fix your car, because like the socks in the night, it's how I show genuine caring.
Princessbelle is right that communication is key because there are so many ways to get things wrong; or right but you just don't know it.