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Originally Posted by AtLastHome
Fluid: changing readily; shifting; not fixed, stable, or rigid.....
For me, butch has a rich and long history, yet has come to a time in which it appears to have shifted to allow for the changes in gender that were masked for a very long time. I don't feel this degrades butch at all, it opens up new avenues for us to experience. I see this as a way to not remain in a rigid state of being. I feel that for others that are trans, this is a way to extend butch foundations - which is why I don't question anyone that is transitioning and keeps their butch identification.
As Met has brought up, my hope is that the B-F community can also have room for those of us that for various reasons, just don't find butch to really fit our gender fluidity. I have just made some shifts that work better for me. And I certainly don't get riled-up with being called butch. It is a part of me, but doesn't cover the whole of me.
Something else that struck me was HB talking about behavior being defined via one's gender. I don't do certain things because of my B-F identity, I do it because of who I am as a whole based upon my history, experiences and all of the other cultural parameters that have shaped me.
I see the very same kinds of behavioral assumptions made of femmes all the time. Sometimes this just feels like being boxed-up and packaged to me with preconceived notions about how I am (and femmes) are to act.
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Hey Atlast, I think... I may have to make a clarification b/c what I highlighted there feels a bit off like it maybe could be misread as to what I'd said earlier.
My choice that butch wasn't the best fit for me was more a personal thing and doesn't rest solely on my gender fluidity as I kind of explained in my last post. I know you're speaking for yourself and what you meant but just want to keep clear on my personal perspective. No offense I hope...
Peace,
Metro