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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake
I don't either, but the game for singles is
"if you had your *ideal,* what would it be?"
I know my ideal career is far more than the career that I love to bits.
My ideal cat is different than the one I have and love to bits and would never give up.
My ideal apartment is different than the one I'm in or willing to take.
So Ideal and what you'd be willing and happy to work with is different, no?
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Well of course if it works for others that is awesome. But no I do not have an ideal that comes with lots of characteristics. I would rather have the real thing than an ideal dream femme in my mind.
I couldn't have imagined ahead of time any of my past partners or their combination of qualities other than obvious ones like femme, compatible with stone butch, etc. Of course given that I am a Dominant Stone Butch Daddy there is a lot to be compatible with, so I guess mine is complicated from the get go. But I have been very pleasantly surprised every time in the past. So I prefer it that way. And I would hate to be measured against a long list of qualifications - unless of course I miraculously passed most of them, lol.
I think real live people are better than any list we can dream up (well they can be a lot worse too, so there is that), but yeah we all think about it differently.
After reading Esme's post though I do need to add left-leaning politics as a must!