ahhh....the love I have for my grandchildren is unconditional. As is the love for my daughter. Those are givens.
as for romantic relationships, I think over the years I have learned there is one condition that needs to be established for the relationship to work. No abuse. Everything else is negotiable. And re-negotiable.
Also in the past few decades, I have loved 2 people that just chewed hard on that love like it was a poor cut of meat. I loved them anyway. I walked away only because my sanity was at risk. They werent abusive but loving them hurt me. I have now made that a condition...that if in loving someone hurts me, I need to leave. I need to love myself at all times, even at the cost of not loving someone else...
loving me, I have decided over the years, is unconditional
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Pole bachit, a lis chuye.
The field sees, the forest hears
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