My current partner and I were very good friends for many years before it developed into a relationship. I think what drew me to him were the same things that made us such good friends. We have so much in common, we come from similar family backgrounds, we want the same things, etc.. And he knows me SO very well! Let's face it...when we first start dating someone, we don't let them into our lives completely (at least, I HOPE not everyone does that!). It takes time to truly get to know someone...it takes living through different experiences and situations. I can't even begin to tell you how liberating it is to begin a relationship with someone who knows you almost as well as you know yourself! I knew that he had already seen me at my best, and at my worst...he has seen the real me for years...warts and all. I knew he didn't, and would never, judge me. He accepted me as a whole, a total package, before we ever even thought of dating. There is something magical in that.
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Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi
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