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Originally Posted by Words
I agree that in many cases, it's for our own benefit that we want/expect others to ID one way or another. I have to say though that one of the reasons I prefer to know how someone IDs is that I don't want to offend them by referring to them in a way that makes them uncomfortable and I would imagine that that's fairly common. So, in a way, it can be a no win situation. Ask them how they ID and make them feel pressured into IDing one way or another, or not ask them, and possibly insult them by assuming?
Make sense?
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yes, it does make sense ... i can see what that might look like.
but i do think that the discomfort that may be caused by asking is likely to be less than the discomfort caused by labeling without asking.