I'm not ashamed to admit that the better part of my motivation to meet was carnal. And no, that never happened either. Shit.
I agree about meeting IRL sooner rather than later, and when I date online locally that is always my goal.
My intention in this case was to meet 6 weeks after we started chatting. However, due to intervening circumstances, we ended up meeting after about 4 months instead.
My expectations were definitely inflated, and I should've known better. This was not my first rodeo. I met my ex-husband online almost 20 years ago, when the internets were brand new. There wasn't even video chat back then. I was in Texas and he was in Vancouver, BC. We waited 6 months to meet and, except for one minor issue (the one that split us up - sexual incompatibility - d'oh!) it was a smashing success. I suggested all my friends should date this way, because you get to know each other from the inside out.
Then I did again about 8 years ago, and it was a disaster. I swore then that I'd never let it happen again.
How did I let this happen again?
