Anastasia, we most certainly will not flame you my dear! Many of us went through our own struggles to not only accept what we are but who we are attracted to.
We all understand how difficult the process is and you don't have to "chose" anything! Most of us found that whatever our "it" is; it chose us.
I too, picked a femme first. Many femmes kiss or fuck or date femmes. No judgment here!
Toe-curling, that's another story. My own true toe-curlers have been butch.
Don't know why, don't care why. It just is. Just like the sun rises and the sun sets or just like I breathe.
Welcome
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~Anya~
Democracy Dies in Darkness
~Washington Post
"...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable."
UN Human Rights commissioner