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Originally Posted by JDeere
My gf has told me to tell her, soon to be 4 year old child, that I am her stepparent!
We are not even married just in a relationship. Does anyone else out there have any advice for me, regarding how I should manage telling this kid I am her stepparent, when I don't really know much about kids.
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Why does she want you to do that? Does a 3- year-old, almost 4-year-old even know what that means (the word step-parent)?
Dos she mean that she wants the child to call you dad or...?
When my kids were young, I was so careful about the length of time I dated someone before I even introduced them and then, what my kids called my boyfriends (before I came out). I usually had them call them by their first name or whatever my BF felt comfortable with.
Step-parent implies a level of permanency. Kids get attached so easily.
Are you comfortable with the child feeling like you are his/her parent? If you have any doubts, don't do it!
I would encourage you to have some real in-depth conversations with your GF about why she wants this and understand where she is coming from.
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