[Arwen]

Originally Posted by JustJo

Just coming back to bump this thread...

...we're having significant issues in this area, and I'd love to hear more about how people have successfully blended families without tearing their relationship apart.

Communication that involves everyone.

I found that we had issues around what was appropriate behaviour and what was correctable behaviour. If I felt a kid needed correction, I did NOT do that myself. I told my partner who would then do the correction.

TO be honest, my steps were 14 and up and REALLY good kids. There was not much needed in that area. I was more the teacher in that I taught both the young ones how to drive and also did a lot of cooking with them.

It might be helpful if you shared what your struggles are.