[Ginger]

I'm hearing all your anxiety about what to wear.

It's hard enough to plan a wedding when a person fits into the male/female dichotomy set up for weddings. I mean, if you were butch or femme identified, you'd have plenty of templates to fit into that you could then tweak to make your own. You could be butch/femme, butch/butch, femme/femme—whatever matched.

But you're "just yourselves." You're not really into dresses, not really into tuxes—

So just follow your gut! Explore and play with the options. I think it will be fun.