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Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss
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Being blunt is rarely my MO. Few folks can handle it.
Just be honest with me, is the battle cry, followed by them attacking me for my"honest answers. "
There is no way to predict what version of "truth " someone is expecting from you. My experience has been that the "truth " is not what they are after.
They want assurance.
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I think you're right and sometimes I choose to tell the truth whether someone wants to hear it or not—it feels validating to me, sometimes, to be seen clearly, and it's worth alienating someone, even someone I care deeply about.
I've also learned that it's okay to lie if it makes a situation less awkward with someone I'll never see again. Someone asked me out not long ago and I didn't want to go out with her. I didn't say, You're not my type, I just said, I'm not dating now, I'm taking a break. Why make someone feel bad? I assume others have done the same to me.