[CherylNYC]

Is it me, or are most of the answers in this thread focusing on what the OP may have done to bring ill treatment upon herself? When I read that a woman, particularly a feminine presenting woman, is being dismissed or presumed to be stupid, I understand it to mean that plain old garden variety misogyny is at work. In our society ALL women are almost always presumed to have foggier, less disciplined minds, best suited to shopping and child rearing. When women are hyper feminine they're even more likely to be burdened with those assumptions. Unfortunately, butches can be just as infuriatingly sexist as men when they encounter a display of high femininity. This discussion reminds me of how women are told that it's their responsibility to avoid sexual assault, and if they are assaulted they must have been carrying themselves in a way that invited it.

Sure, women are often socialised into presenting ourselves as less assertive and less confident. Sure, that often means that others take us less seriously. Yes, of course when we feel more confident we're treated with more respect. BUT just being a feminine woman, regardless of our intelligence or self confidence, means that many people will privilege males over us. And sometimes butches will do the same.