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Originally Posted by girl_dee
Do you think for some it's a calling? Like some folks always seem to end up in a caregiving role.
In my group yesterday there was a lady there who was widowed, then her boyfriend who she was also caring for didn't want her there anymore. She was so lost. She said the same as you , she felt she has no purpose. Why do we feel we have to be caring for someone to have a purpose????
i was not asked to do this, i chose it.
i moved back to New Orleans, bought a house with an apartment/cottage in the back to put her in, because she wanted to be closer to her kin, only she has complained about just about everyhting and not found any happiness.
She wants to be IN my house. i want to live alone, and for the most part she is in here anyway, i don't want her here when i wake up and go to bed! There is no reason for her to be.
i was dillusional when i thought she would be happy in her little home. She clearly is not, and reminds me daily that she wants to be IN my house.
Bottom line is that there is old stuff.. that i will never be enough and she will always be miserable.
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I dont know if ppl r called to take care of loved one or not.
When both of my partners got sick and we knew they were going to pass I CHOOSE to stay.
I can say that neither of them really was one to complain however I know that no matter what you do for some it will never be enough. I had a friend who took care of her father and he was a piece of work.
By the time they had to find a home for him there was so much animosity tween all the family members it wasnt funny.
I swear if i have to take care of my parents i will but my brothers better b there to give me a break when needed