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Jesse · 09-04-2010, 09:42 AM

I too have been doing a lot of thinking and work in this area the last couple of weeks.

I've realized that:

I was never nurtured as a child, nor was I taught how to be self nurturing.
In turn, I never allowed myself to be truly nurtured by anyone else
I learned how to nurture others later in life, but never how to self nurture
The whole self nurture thing bothered me at first, because I was taught that is selfish behavior.
I am able to teach myself how to do this.

Some of the ways I self nurture now:

I try to make sure that the things I need to have done are taken care of so that I do not have feelings of guilt .
I am exercising more; bike riding and walking on the treadmill.
I make sure to eat healthy, but do not forbid myself of things that I like that may not be so healthy; I just limit my intake of those.
I do what I need to do to take care of myself emotionally; that sometimes means leaving toxic people behind and I am okay with that.
I am working on going back to school, hopefully in January.
I tell myself the truth and that means doing my own inventory.
I allow myself to have a voice in things that are important to me.

Jesse

09-04-2010, 09:42 AM	#18
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,793 Times in 3,939 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I too have been doing a lot of thinking and work in this area the last couple of weeks. I've realized that: I was never nurtured as a child, nor was I taught how to be self nurturing. In turn, I never allowed myself to be truly nurtured by anyone else I learned how to nurture others later in life, but never how to self nurture The whole self nurture thing bothered me at first, because I was taught that is selfish behavior. I am able to teach myself how to do this. Some of the ways I self nurture now: I try to make sure that the things I need to have done are taken care of so that I do not have feelings of guilt . I am exercising more; bike riding and walking on the treadmill. I make sure to eat healthy, but do not forbid myself of things that I like that may not be so healthy; I just limit my intake of those. I do what I need to do to take care of myself emotionally; that sometimes means leaving toxic people behind and I am okay with that. I am working on going back to school, hopefully in January. I tell myself the truth and that means doing my own inventory. I allow myself to have a voice in things that are important to me. Jesse __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”