To feel loved and secure I simply need someone who believes in me and who can give me moral support in what I'm doing career-wise.... (yup, I once had a girlfriend who basically denigrated almost everything I did or choose to do).
I need someone who can hold me and show me empathy if things doesn't work out the way I planned... (Don't want to hear the proverbial "I told you so" or "What were you thinking?").
Also, in my own opinion, mutual trust and mutual respect are 2 fundamental keys to a good relationship.
Oh, and some flowers once in a while
! ( I love to give them too! )