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Soon · 10-11-2011, 06:14 PM

It's funny b/c I still cannot talk about it to many--even though, it has been over ten years.

I might be able to do the bare bones of it.

2002--I was 32 and had only been with one other woman for a year before this scenario.

Characters: Catholic Mother--Me

Restaurant--her and myself having a bday lunch (we are two days apart in the same month)

She asked how my *friend* was...and then proceeded to ask where she slept when she visited me (she was living in a different province at the time).

I replied, "Oh, so you know that we are more than friends..."

Her response: "WHAT?!?!?!?! You are kidding me; tell me you are joking!"

My response: "No. I though you KNEW!! Why would you ask her sleeping arrangements, if you didn't. etc etc"

Mom's response: "OMG. You HAD BOYFRIENDS!!!"

My response: "Yes...and now I don't...and exactly what IS your problem that M. is my lover?"

Her response: "It's against the CATHOLIC Church!"

My response: "And so was me sleeping with the past boyfriends, but you got used to that!"

Her response: "YOU ARE NOT GAY! People KNOW when they are/you were NOT born that way...." (still working on that as I believe women's sexuality is quite complicated, but what can you do when the meme is you are BORN that way.)

My response: I left the restaurant.

MOM left and knocked on my apt where my partner was sitting there and she proceeded to tell my gf how SELFISH I was and had always been. That's another story.

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Conclusion: It got better from there.
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That is ONE of the coming out stories...of course, we do it over and over and over...i have tonnes of them, but that is the one that stands out in my head.

10-11-2011, 06:14 PM	#3
Soon Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: attached Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 6,896 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,046 Thanked 13,118 Times in 3,391 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	It's funny b/c I still cannot talk about it to many--even though, it has been over ten years. I might be able to do the bare bones of it. 2002--I was 32 and had only been with one other woman for a year before this scenario. Characters: Catholic Mother--Me Restaurant--her and myself having a bday lunch (we are two days apart in the same month) She asked how my friend was...and then proceeded to ask where she slept when she visited me (she was living in a different province at the time). I replied, "Oh, so you know that we are more than friends..." Her response: "WHAT?!?!?!?! You are kidding me; tell me you are joking!" My response: "No. I though you KNEW!! Why would you ask her sleeping arrangements, if you didn't. etc etc" Mom's response: "OMG. You HAD BOYFRIENDS!!!" My response: "Yes...and now I don't...and exactly what IS your problem that M. is my lover?" Her response: "It's against the CATHOLIC Church!" My response: "And so was me sleeping with the past boyfriends, but you got used to that!" Her response: "YOU ARE NOT GAY! People KNOW when they are/you were NOT born that way...." (still working on that as I believe women's sexuality is quite complicated, but what can you do when the meme is you are BORN that way.) My response: I left the restaurant. MOM left and knocked on my apt where my partner was sitting there and she proceeded to tell my gf how SELFISH I was and had always been. That's another story. -------------------------- Conclusion: It got better from there. ------------------------------- That is ONE of the coming out stories...of course, we do it over and over and over...i have tonnes of them, but that is the one that stands out in my head.