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SuperFemme · 07-12-2010, 11:24 PM

I want to say something about the word "victim" because it gets thrown around a lot.

I know that for *me* I was a victim. Of a drunk driver. I had to go through that period of shock and awe that happens when you wake up from a coma and don't know who you are or where you or even your name.

I know that some of us were born with different abilities, some of us acquired them from traumatic things and some of us have illnesses which got us in the club.

It is normal (i think) to grieve for what you've lost, what you know will never be, and sometimes from frustration of not feeling "enough".

So some of us are stuck in that mode of grieving for longer than others. Some of us never get out of that space. That's just the way it is.

With that being said, I don't think it's fair for us (the collective us) to label people victims in such a negative context.

I think *I* am the one that gets to decide if victim fits me. I could be wrong, but it feels oogie to me to use the word in a negative context when talking about other people.

What else could we use? Idea's?

I tend to think of "stuck" when thinking about the times I've not been able to fight my way out of the darkness.

07-12-2010, 11:24 PM	#17
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	I want to say something about the word "victim" because it gets thrown around a lot. I know that for me I was a victim. Of a drunk driver. I had to go through that period of shock and awe that happens when you wake up from a coma and don't know who you are or where you or even your name. I know that some of us were born with different abilities, some of us acquired them from traumatic things and some of us have illnesses which got us in the club. It is normal (i think) to grieve for what you've lost, what you know will never be, and sometimes from frustration of not feeling "enough". So some of us are stuck in that mode of grieving for longer than others. Some of us never get out of that space. That's just the way it is. With that being said, I don't think it's fair for us (the collective us) to label people victims in such a negative context. I think I am the one that gets to decide if victim fits me. I could be wrong, but it feels oogie to me to use the word in a negative context when talking about other people. What else could we use? Idea's? I tend to think of "stuck" when thinking about the times I've not been able to fight my way out of the darkness.