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Originally Posted by kittygrrl
31% of both men and women agree that 15 minutes of a date is all it takes to decide.
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Originally Posted by Gemme
I can make that decision in less than 2 minutes.
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Originally Posted by Gemme
Superficial? Nah.
Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone.
Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather
- • 55% is through body language
- • 38% is the tone and speed of their voice
- • Only 7% is through what they say
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Although I'm not femme and I don't date anymore, I found this interesting cause it seems to work opposite for me. It's not that I don't know in 90 seconds to 4 minutes if I fancy someone, it is that I learned over time that the person I initially fancy in 2 to 4 minutes is not likely to be the person I end up interested in.
I mean if there is zero or less than zero chemistry, then that is not likely to change over time, but as for anything other than a complete no go, I never knew for sure. Apparently what I was attracted to wasn't really what I was looking for.
Imagine my surprise.
Again and again.
Until I figured out that quirk I have.
Thank goodness all that is over. I haven't had to be puzzled by my lack of interest in what initially attracts me in over 13 years.
The good news for me is that I knew my wife for a year before I ever met her and we were not in a long distance relationship, we were not dating, we were just friends. But knowing her for that length of time made the initial attraction I felt when I met her to be something I could trust because it was also combined with the things I already knew and liked about her.
Anyway, sorry for the compulsion to add my 2 cents but those posts spoke to me and made me think about how weird this dating thing worked for me.