Hi Random
I would offer to you that perhaps here lies the problem...
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Originally Posted by Random
I am absolutly horrible at nurturing myself..
It's a nasty circle..
I feel guilty for taking/giving myself what I need to be a balance, healthy individual...
So I stop....
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I have learned that I HAVE to keep me healthy in order for anything else in my life to work, and in order to do that I MUST be accepting of myself and my needs. I have also learned that guilt is a destroyer at best, but otherwise really does not serve any purpose for us.
I do get the struggle you are in. On the one hand I see that you know what you need in order to be healthy, and on the other there is the guilt. Learning to self nurture will help a lot with removing that guilt though.
So I say to you, you are not at fault for taking/giving yourself what you need to be a balanced, healthy individual. You will be a stronger partner if you take care of you.
If you enjoy reading you may be interested in reading Radical Acceptance...it has opened my eyes about the ways I have limited myself, through self judgment.
Peace
Jesse
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