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How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme
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I coped really well, but then I never expected to be acknowledged in the street.
I :
Live in gay areas
Used to have stickers on my car
Didn't wear earrings or too much colour
Didn't wear much jewellery at all
Didn't hang out with gay men or straight women in gay places
Didn't put pretty things in my hair
Didn't giggle unless I was drunk
Didn't humor straight men at. all.
Would complain to my friends about invisibility so they'd feel obliged to step in if someone misidentified me
Would dress down (slightly) or drag (queen) up when going to a gay venue or anywhere with majority gay.
It sounds sucky but it wasn't for me. It took away from a heteronormative appearance, so lesbians would pick up that I wasn't straight and men would think twice before hitting on me.
Now that I'm married and not worried about pulling women, I've noticed a difference. My style has become more tomboyish, yet lesbians are starting to ID me as straight. I'm convinced this is because I'm starting to break all of my own rules.
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