Wow!
Several people have encouraged me to post my writings here.
I don't think I will.
I write what I feel, how I feel it, when I feel it and why I feel it.
When I write, I don't write for everyone, and my writing will not please everyone, nor will it "fit" everyone.
I wrote a poem about myself entitled "Lissa's song"
It is a very personal, very self promoting song (in so much as it speaks to the content of my soul)
No way in HELL would I feel comfortable posting something here, in the POETRY, WRITING... section, knowing that
A) someone may be offended because I say "I bask in the rays of the sun and dance in the light of her sister, moon"... because obviously, the sun isn't female or male, and neither is the moon.
B) someone would think nothing of taking that "offense" and decimating something as personal as MY own feelings about how I feel. No thanks.
C) if poetry, stories, how people feel about themselves and about someone or "generic" all, can and will be decisively polarizing, why bother?
Can we not see poetry as someone's inner beauty shining through?
Are we so "frightened" of the "male" dominated world that we take offense at someone's feelings that may or may not reflect poorly or richly on themselves or someone else?
Confusing? Yep! Thats the way I felt when I read this thread, confused as HELL!
The dialogue between Kobi and Julie helped, but speaking as someone who often puts my feelings "out there" I could definitely feel WHY the OP felt attacked. Was that the intent? For some, obviously not. For other's... well lets just say that I felt like there were some who wanted to cause chaos, hard feelings, and some who just wanted to stand on a soap box and beat their own chest.
Do we not get enough of that from the "outside" world? Should we not all stand together as a COMMUNITY of beautifully diverse people, regardless of IDs and isms?
Ever heard the phrase, you get more bee's with honey?
"Hey, dude, Jist, please correct your "what EVERY femme should know" title, it may be offensive to some.
OR.. PEOPLE, this is a POETRY, WRITING post.
How about, ASKING the OP what he meant by "EVERY" femme, instead of INSTANTLY believing that he obviously MEANT every femme and so he MUST be SEXIST or what the fuck ever that M word is!
There are so many blasted labels here, that I am tempted to start mentally slapping labels on everyone I meet.
People say that "Jist" or anyone else who takes offense at words, should put their big girl panties on.
Guess what? Quit trying to dress other people while you're standing there NEKKID!
Had YOU put your big girl panties on and ASKED simple questions instead of getting ALL OFFENDED at what was a SWEET POEM, maybe this would have been a much nicer read!
Quote:
You don't have to be a simpering idiot to meet and keep a good butch
It's patronizing, pandering and least of all, heteronormative--Which is all great if I consent and but none of us did.
The title could have read, 'Here's where I degrade and patronize Femme and perpetuate female-feeble mindedness' and that's cool, I wouldn't have reason to read that thread.
I hope that helps your confusion.
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Don't ever speak for me. Ever! I didn't find this POEM any of those things and I can assure you that I am NOT some "female-feeble minded" woman! I didn't feel degraded, I didn't feel patronized and I sure as hell didn't feel that this was in any way "heteronormative". What the hell kind of word is that anyway? Am I "heteronormative" because I want to be married, I want to be a "submissive" wife to a butch woman who can lead the household because that is what I believe to be right for me?? Then I guess along with "femme, lesbian, and homosexual and gay, add THAT label to my lapel as well. No label and no one's thoughts or idea's threaten me nor how I identify, not only on an online forum, but in my life.
In my life I have been degraded (by a woman) I have been raped (by a woman) I have been marginilized (by a woman) and I have been patronized (by a woman). Does that mean all women SUCK? Nope. But by the theory or thought process here, I SHOULD think all women suck, because thus far, that is all I have found. No, instead I realize that women, like any other faction of society, differs, sometimes hugely, and while ALL X chromosonal people are biologically "female" not all of them are bitches, psychotic, sexist, patronizing, degrading, raping people.
Interesting how one comes about understanding that, isn't it?
I will put here, these are MY thoughts, opinions and whatnot. And I LIKED the OP's original post and just because I LIKED it, doesnt mean that I am weak, or that I am a simpering fool, or that I need to be validated by someone else nor does it mean that I am so cowed by the "heteronomrmative" standards that I can't see the forest for the tree's. it means that in that POEM, I saw beauty, I saw love, I saw affection and while it may be idealistic, maybe even overly mushy, I saw someone putting their heart on their sleeve. That's more than most ever say or do.
Whose woods these are, I think I know, his house is in the village though, he will not see me stopping here to watch his woods fill up with snow. My little horse must think it queer..... "Robert Frost"
Discect/analyze/criticize that. He said "queer" he must be homophobic! (SARCASM ALERT!)
Put personal thoughts, idea's and emotions on here to be analyzed, dissected, made fun of, made light of or even looked down on?
No thanks.