Thanks to all for replying.
I'm talking about instances where it's known that I'm a lesbian. People I ended up with, but always had to make the first move, or relay that I was attracted to them first, etc. It was clear in these instances that there was chemistry between us.
I asked my last gf when she would have asked me out...and she said maybe after knowing me for a year, lol. She was intimidated by me.
I think Clyde is absolutely correct about being socialized as females, and I get that. I guess my take is that somebody has to get things moving...I just wish for somebody else to be the initiator once.
I think I will just embrace my identity as an intrepid femme.
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