I am wondering if the fact that my now ex partner and I were not able to make things work may be due, in part, to the fact that she does not perform gender in a masculine or butch way. She did have some qualities related to more butch type activities but she does not identify as butch. I very strongly identify as femme and find that the energy and balance of a butch femme relationship works so well for me. I enjoy even the small things like someone opening the door, helping me with heavy items, ordering both of our dinners at the restaurant, and the butch confidence and dominance within certain aspects of the relationship. I know everyone is different so this is just my thoughts about the matter. Thank you for reading my post.
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