I am not shy, so bear with me please
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Do you think it would be easier to be rejected because of skin color than because the person is just not interested in you?
I am not sure what kind of person you are attracted to, but I learned a long time ago to let people I am interested in know I am interested in a non-threatening way. No guessing games...I just ask them if they would like to hang out sometime or I ask for their email address or somehow make sure they know it's OK to ask Me out.
Because really, it does not matter who they usually date, it matters if they are attracted to you.
I would not have had/have the relationships I have had if I had not just sucked it up and made the first move. I like very masculine Butches and many of them can be a bit...well...clueless unless I make it known I like them.