11-29-2009, 10:14 AM
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Originally Posted by blush
This is my quote for the day.
And I may steal it and use it and never give you credit.
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I was seriously considering making it my signature line.
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Originally Posted by blush
I've said this before in other threads, but since y'all don't thread stalk me like you should, I'll say it again.
Our identity as femmes is frequently linked to our masculine counterpart. But butches are never burdened with this. Their standing in a community is never identified by their female counterpart. For example, if we are dating someone who is female-identified, we are expected to eschew the trans community. If we are dating a transperson, we suddenly must shun female-identified butches. And, heaven forbid, if we date another femme, we must simply pack up, turn in our femme card, and leave the Mother Ship.
Sometimes, it feels as though we are hauled off by our hair to join the "their" caveman clan.
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Commence thread stalking.
I'm glad you spoke to this aspect of "standing in a community." I've seen a bit of this in the realz. A femme attends local butch/femme meetings, begins to date another femme, or a male (of any variety) and suddenly other folks start to question her presence in the community. As if who she is bangin' has anything to do with her sense of community belonging, or deep affiliation.
What? We can only check one box now?
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Originally Posted by apretty
yes! and this reminds me to share further: i don't subscribe to the belief that one can be a transensual femme or stonefemme--or any other kind of *femme* that is dependent on who you date or how you don't touch your partner's sexbits.
thanks, blush!
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Sexbits.
I blush.
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Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin to slit throats. - H. L. Mencken
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