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imperfect_cupcake · 12-13-2015, 07:12 PM

I surf that one. I don't think there is anything wrong talking about your exes (or am I the only one with several exes in my life?) in regards to talking about *your* life. Like if you are telling a story about a vacation you took and you were married for 9 years, it's likely much of your recent life is going to have stories that include ones ex. Fact of life. I don't want people to never talk abut the stories of their life because they fell in love and had sex before dating me. I *love* stories about people's lives. And if people edit their exes out of them, that's just weird.

But *pining* about ones recent ex in front of a new date is bad form. So is endless ranting.

There is a difference in talking about your life with exes in it, and talking about one recent ex in particular in an obsessive manner.

I want to get to know people, their lives, their histories, their stories... That's going to have stories with exes in them as characters that are part of the play about their lives.

Obsessing about someone you've just broken up with while meeting another is poor form. Maybe just look for casual date sex while going through that.

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imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,727 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I surf that one. I don't think there is anything wrong talking about your exes (or am I the only one with several exes in my life?) in regards to talking about your life. Like if you are telling a story about a vacation you took and you were married for 9 years, it's likely much of your recent life is going to have stories that include ones ex. Fact of life. I don't want people to never talk abut the stories of their life because they fell in love and had sex before dating me. I love stories about people's lives. And if people edit their exes out of them, that's just weird. But pining about ones recent ex in front of a new date is bad form. So is endless ranting. There is a difference in talking about your life with exes in it, and talking about one recent ex in particular in an obsessive manner. I want to get to know people, their lives, their histories, their stories... That's going to have stories with exes in them as characters that are part of the play about their lives. Obsessing about someone you've just broken up with while meeting another is poor form. Maybe just look for casual date sex while going through that. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 12-13-2015 at 07:14 PM.