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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake
I surf that one. I don't think there is anything wrong talking about your exes (or am I the only one with several exes in my life?) in regards to talking about *your* life. Like if you are telling a story about a vacation you took and you were married for 9 years, it's likely much of your recent life is going to have stories that include ones ex. Fact of life. I don't want people to never talk abut the stories of their life because they fell in love and had sex before dating me. I *love* stories about people's lives. And if people edit their exes out of them, that's just weird.
But *pining* about ones recent ex in front of a new date is bad form. So is endless ranting.
There is a difference in talking about your life with exes in it, and talking about one recent ex in particular in an obsessive manner.
I want to get to know people, their lives, their histories, their stories... That's going to have stories with exes in them as characters that are part of the play about their lives.
Obsessing about someone you've just broken up with while meeting another is poor form. Maybe just look for casual date sex while going through that.
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Our lives include experiences with other people, and they are a part of my conversation if appropriate to the situation...but we all know the difference between mentioning an ex in a conversation, and making every conversation a conversation about an ex.
I believe we agree about that
Although i have to say, I love the way you put your thoughts into writing!
