Pink Confection
How Do You Identify?: Femme
Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am
Relationship Status: Dating Myself
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Nashville
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I've not been on here for a while. Damnnn I miss you guys.
I've toyed with Polyamory since college (the first time. circa early 80's), and when I think back, the times I felt most relaxed and at ease (past new relationship bliss), is when I am not the main focus of anyone. Yes, I dig companionship and love and sex, but to have 100% of another person's expectations aimed at me...is not something I deal with well.
One of my favorite relationships was with a married woman. Her husband dropped her off Friday evenings at 6pm and picked her back up Saturday evening or early Sunday morning. Brilliant!
I have been in triads before too. It takes so much stress off me to have other people to share relationship burden with. I love the family approach for that reason.
It's not even that I long to have sex with several people, though I am not opposed; it's more that it wigs me out to the object of total attention.
Great thread, I am glad its revived!
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