Forgiveness is a bitter thing for me.
I've done things I don't expect forgiveness for. Things have been done that I am unable to forgive.
I do believe in forgiveness. However I don't believe in forgetting. Inability to forget doesn't mean I hold a grudge. I don't think of the transgression every time the offender is seen. But the betrayal is remembered and things may change slightly to ensure that doesn't happen again. For example, I am lied to. From then on, I make take what that person says with a grain of salt.
A more extreme example... my abuser. He's forgiven. It's not forgotten. I will socialize with him, but I will avoid being alone with him for any extended period of time.
For me.. sometimes the overall person outweighs the betrayal.
However, I never forgive for them. I do it so it doesn't eat me alive.
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