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Originally Posted by Kobi
This was the topic of conversation at dinner tonight.
This has nothing to do with the labels you use i.e. I am a guy and I dont date guys or I am butch and dont date butches.
It is about you as a person. So take a look at your strengths, weaknesses, quirks/quirkiness, where you are in life, where you plan on going in life, how you prefer to live your life etc.
And decide....would you date you? Why? Why not?
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Would I date a butch, sexually dominant version of myself?
No. Because I need someone that *compliments* my strengths and weaknesses, that interlinks with the way I work, no a carbon copy of my personality traits, that wouldn't work. That's like two puzzle pieces of the same shape.
I'm a quiet living extrovert that likes gregarious introverts. It works better than two extroverts. Two extroverts don't ever shut the fuck up.
I like people who have strong points where I suck.
Two people who are very chill about the same things don't ever make decisions, and stubborn about the same things, never make compromises.
Having similar values/needs/wants in a relationship would be great, yes. And similar interests would be fantastic. But that's about the only places I would find it beneficial.
too much similarity - we'd fight too much.