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imperfect_cupcake · 02-03-2014, 10:31 AM

I guess it depends in what circles you run. I generally just call myself a dyke. I like women as gender, butch as gender, transmasculine as gender, queer as gender, boi as gender etc. but I like female bodied people, the end. So I say dyke. Pretty much everyone knows what I mean. I personally tend to simplify things these days. I used to put qualifiers on femme etc. but when I stopped hanging out on line for dates etc and just met people and was able to go to in person community I found labelling really didn't matter as much. The person is in front of you that you are talking to. I prefer to explain individually than to use IDs.... It makes things less confusing. If I'm flirting with someone and going to go home with them, I don't think it matters if I like four genders or two or one. It's obvious I like them. They seem to be pleased with the fact. The only discussion I need to have wth them is letting them know I'm pretty kinky as it will likely directly affect them shortly lol

I tend to not even use the words butch or femme these days in person. If I am directly interacting with them, they can see who I am, how I move and hold myself and how I interact with them. It seems redundant. The only words I seem to use in those kinds of conversation is bottom/top, active/passive, dom/sub as it's hard to tell any of those things. I'm very assertive, a bit bossy at time, not afraid of conflict, very independant and I'm a submissive in the bedroom. So that is something I try to talk about a bit. Everything else... Is apparent when I'm standing and talking to them.

02-03-2014, 10:31 AM	#23
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,727 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I guess it depends in what circles you run. I generally just call myself a dyke. I like women as gender, butch as gender, transmasculine as gender, queer as gender, boi as gender etc. but I like female bodied people, the end. So I say dyke. Pretty much everyone knows what I mean. I personally tend to simplify things these days. I used to put qualifiers on femme etc. but when I stopped hanging out on line for dates etc and just met people and was able to go to in person community I found labelling really didn't matter as much. The person is in front of you that you are talking to. I prefer to explain individually than to use IDs.... It makes things less confusing. If I'm flirting with someone and going to go home with them, I don't think it matters if I like four genders or two or one. It's obvious I like them. They seem to be pleased with the fact. The only discussion I need to have wth them is letting them know I'm pretty kinky as it will likely directly affect them shortly lol I tend to not even use the words butch or femme these days in person. If I am directly interacting with them, they can see who I am, how I move and hold myself and how I interact with them. It seems redundant. The only words I seem to use in those kinds of conversation is bottom/top, active/passive, dom/sub as it's hard to tell any of those things. I'm very assertive, a bit bossy at time, not afraid of conflict, very independant and I'm a submissive in the bedroom. So that is something I try to talk about a bit. Everything else... Is apparent when I'm standing and talking to them.