Love is the ability to say "No" to any one or any thing that does not lift you up or provide an positive outcome that improves your life or well being.
In my mind, being able to say "No" is a healthy form of love: be it for yourself or expressed toward another. Being able to do that is a form of self care because it builds confidence in making choices to improve ones' life.
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