[Lynn]

For this femme, were I dating: act like an adult and treat me like one. If the door presents itself to be held, go ahead and hold it, but don't fall over yourself for the sake of chivalry. To me, that would be contrived. I might hold the door for you, too, if it seems right. More importantly, listen well, communicate openly, and show that you care. Flowers are OK, but eye contact is even better. Don't put too many obstacles in front of actually meeting and spending real time together (vs. texting, chatting, email).