This one might be a little tough, I had a conversation with a friend earlier this week and it sparked an interesting conversation. Our generation seems to not conform to anything anymore, being different for the sake of being different.
A lot of our generation doesn't want to identify as butch, femme, boi, dyke, lipstick, stone, what have you, they want to identify as nothing, and I understand you don't want others to label you, but what if that's clearly what you are or what you lean towards, why not just accept it?
Maybe someone else can explain the reasoning behind it because I know I'm girly, I identify as femme, I'm seriously attracted to butches. That's who I am, what I like, and I'm 100% okay with it. And I know there are butches out there that like butches and femmes that like femmes, and that just peachy, but why not want to be apart of a group that will welcome you with open arms?