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Esme nha Maire · 12-12-2017, 03:41 AM

I agree with Cupcake, JDeere. If you're the kind of person that likes buying small gifts for friends, then your side of the equation is OK. If your ex is the kind of person who doesnt 'read between the lines' about every darned thing, then her side is OK - if both Ok, buy 'em.

I know if me or my ex bought flowers for the other under the circumstances you describe, either of us would be fine with it. It'd be quite odd coming from her, as she almost never did buy flowers for me, but our partnership died many years ago, and that's not going to rekindle. She also knows that I liek surprising folk with unexpected gofts, so she wouldn;t think anything other than that it would be odd, as I know she doesn't like cut flowers, but she'd appreciate the thought behind the gift.

If she likes cut flowers, and other factors - your personalities, as noted above - don't indicate otherwise, then IMO it'd be a nice gesture. But only you can know whether she;d view a gift of flowers as having an ulterior motive.

12-12-2017, 03:41 AM	#46
Esme nha Maire Member How Do You Identify?: Tomboyish eccentric antique femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2017 Location: UK Posts: 642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,196 Thanked 2,089 Times in 541 Posts Rep Power: 19310768	I agree with Cupcake, JDeere. If you're the kind of person that likes buying small gifts for friends, then your side of the equation is OK. If your ex is the kind of person who doesnt 'read between the lines' about every darned thing, then her side is OK - if both Ok, buy 'em. I know if me or my ex bought flowers for the other under the circumstances you describe, either of us would be fine with it. It'd be quite odd coming from her, as she almost never did buy flowers for me, but our partnership died many years ago, and that's not going to rekindle. She also knows that I liek surprising folk with unexpected gofts, so she wouldn;t think anything other than that it would be odd, as I know she doesn't like cut flowers, but she'd appreciate the thought behind the gift. If she likes cut flowers, and other factors - your personalities, as noted above - don't indicate otherwise, then IMO it'd be a nice gesture. But only you can know whether she;d view a gift of flowers as having an ulterior motive.