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Gemme · 04-13-2011, 11:23 PM

Work for it.

Not that a relationship should be something that you toll at, nor is it something that you clock in and out for, but it's not something you can opt to show up for either.

You're in it 24/7 or not at all. Be present.

Take into consideration the consequences of your actions (or lack thereof) on your partner and adjust your behavior accordingly.

Breaking it down biblically, do unto others. Treat him or her as you would like to be treated.

Show respect. Earn respect. It's a mutually beneficial cycle.

LISTEN and HEAR what is being said, whether it's about an opinion on where to hang a picture or whether it's about future goals for the relationship.

Clean up after yourself. Chances are, you don't live with your mom still. Don't make your partner your parent.

Give yourself and your partner some leeway. Neither of you are perfect. Allow for idiocyncrasies and mistakes and adjust your behavior accordingly.

Never say no to requests for sweets and/or junk food.

04-13-2011, 11:23 PM	#28
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,587 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,179 Thanked 108,771 Times in 25,659 Posts Rep Power: 21474887	Work for it. Not that a relationship should be something that you toll at, nor is it something that you clock in and out for, but it's not something you can opt to show up for either. You're in it 24/7 or not at all. Be present. Take into consideration the consequences of your actions (or lack thereof) on your partner and adjust your behavior accordingly. Breaking it down biblically, do unto others. Treat him or her as you would like to be treated. Show respect. Earn respect. It's a mutually beneficial cycle. LISTEN and HEAR what is being said, whether it's about an opinion on where to hang a picture or whether it's about future goals for the relationship. Clean up after yourself. Chances are, you don't live with your mom still. Don't make your partner your parent. Give yourself and your partner some leeway. Neither of you are perfect. Allow for idiocyncrasies and mistakes and adjust your behavior accordingly. Never say no to requests for sweets and/or junk food. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated. Last edited by Gemme; 04-13-2011 at 11:25 PM.