Stressed OUT!?! - Page 8

nicetgurl_30 · 09-02-2010, 04:09 AM

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Umm I work with elementary kids who go through this a lot. Of course there r web sites u can go to but a really good way to open things up just ask them. A good book is dinosaurs divorcE. Help them identify maybe if their tummy hurts after an argument it means this....or ask them what they think it means.
Happy, sad,mad,scared? Then go from there.

QUOTE=Stearns;148911]An acrimonious divorce between my brother and sister-in-law. Worry over how my niece and nephews (6, 7 and 9 y/o) are being affected. My brother saying things to them about their mom; the emotional abuse he heaps upon her. He is unreachable, unreasonable, unrepentant. My nephew throwing up after witnessing a horrific argument. Mental picture of the three of them huddled in the car, watching. Wondering what I can do, if I can do more. Regret at having moved - though only a state away - so far away. If I had only known.[/QUOTE]

Miss Scarlett · 09-02-2010, 04:45 AM

Just when I think the stress levels are dropping...

I work in family law. Sometimes we have a person call for an appointment and when I do the conflict check it pops up immediately. Sometimes it doesn't. It all hinges on the information provided by the client or prospective client and I don't read minds.

When I have to tell someone there is a conflict and we cannot meet with them I walk a very fine line because what I say cannot reveal confidential client information. I cannot tell someone "I'm sorry but Ms Attorney cannot meet with you. We have a conflict of interest because we have already met with your spouse." Being able to say that certainly would make my job easier. But no can do. When I do find a conflict I have to tell the prospective client "I'm sorry Ms. Attorney is unable to meet with you" and leave it at that. They ask me for more information and all I can tell them is that my attorney cannot meet with them.

Yesterday I discovered a conflict before a potential client came into the office. After discussing it with my attorney the appointment was cancelled giving the usual cryptic explanation. The stress came to roost when a family member called demanding an explanation then called back screaming and I do mean SCREAMING at me about the situation and demanding an explanation.

I gave the message to my boss and she will deal with it. I dread the phone and my office email today. Not looking forward to another tirade. Taking this personally is not something I do, but it is still an extremely unpleasant experience.

I keep repeating to myself something my Mom said when I worked for her:
"An attorney is not a bus. She doesn't have to stop and pick up every stray on the street."

Looking forward to 9/12 when this retrograde ends.

butchboi1999 · 09-02-2010, 05:06 AM

Wow, I am at this moment unbelievable stressed and angry. I feel like my partner lectures me on a lot of things. I lost my job two years ago when the company closed. Since then I have turned into a full time student and am working on two degrees. My partner is pissed because I am not working part time as well. It is not that I haven't tried, maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I get unemployment, so its not like I don't have money. Part of me thinks that she feels that it is unfair that I just come home and sit around all day while she has to work. Sure I come home, but I clean the house, prepare dinner, take care of the animals and I do school work. I am tired a lot because I have sleep apnea that is not under control (waiting for a doctor), so I have barely any energy. Gawd, I just feel this rage inside me, but I have learned to turn it into a cry, so I will just sit here and whimper.

lipstixgal · 09-02-2010, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by butchboi1999

Wow, I am at this moment unbelievable stressed and angry. I feel like my partner lectures me on a lot of things. I lost my job two years ago when the company closed. Since then I have turned into a full time student and am working on two degrees. My partner is pissed because I am not working part time as well. It is not that I haven't tried, maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I get unemployment, so its not like I don't have money. Part of me thinks that she feels that it is unfair that I just come home and sit around all day while she has to work. Sure I come home, but I clean the house, prepare dinner, take care of the animals and I do school work. I am tired a lot because I have sleep apnea that is not under control (waiting for a doctor), so I have barely any energy. Gawd, I just feel this rage inside me, but I have learned to turn it into a cry, so I will just sit here and whimper.

Maybe you should try and talk about things that always helps some but I think once you get your sleep apnea under control you will feel lots better. Good Luck with school!! its a tough journey

Tommi · 09-02-2010, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by JustBeingMe

Since yesterday, when mom told me she needed to have an angiogram done again, because her heart is NOT getting Enough Oxygen to it, I have been stressed beyond measure. I am already so stressed over my own stuff and now this. OMG I think I am just going to lose my friggin mind.
I just pray that if mom has to have major surgery after finding out what's causing this, that it's done quickly and NOT during the time I have to leave and be elsewhere of which I have NO OPTION but to leave to attend to personal matters which I will not speak of here.
I don't think I can add another crumb to my plate, it's so overflowing right now it's unbelievable. OMG it's a damn good thing I don't drink.

Remarkable things can be done when heart problems are taken care of early. Glad this was found in time to take care of things.

Take time to breathe deep....I know, sounds simple..
Best regards to you and your Mom.

pajama · 09-02-2010, 09:33 AM

Suprisingly, this has me more stressed than I thought. Been fighting an anxiety attack for about an hour. Haven't had one of those since I was the one behaving badly. Now I find myself in a situation that I'm trying real hard not to influence, that may mean I loose someone very special.

Just trying to get by with these shallow breaths, because an elephant's been on my chest for a while. LOL

This too shall pass.
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pajama · 09-02-2010, 09:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tommi

Remarkable things can be done when heart problems are taken care of early. Glad this was found in time to take care of things.

Take time to breathe deep....I know, sounds simple..
Best regards to you and your Mom.

Simple but effective.

JustBeingMe · 09-04-2010, 12:57 AM

Stressed is not even a word that describes the meaning of what I truly feel lately. Mom has to have another angiogram due to her heart not getting enough oxygen and failing her stress test. My mom has had so many damn surgeries already it's not even funny. She has P.A.D. and high cholesterol, she's been on meds since her first surgery 22 years ago, when she was my age, 47...my bday is this month, so same age as mom on her first surgery. My mom died during her first open heart triple bypass, of which they had to revert to only doing a double, then the following year doing the other bypass surgery. She has plastic aorta in her stomach to both legs, and just had surgery in Dec for the 5th time to save her left leg, she now has plastic artery in that too. She has had both carotid arteries done, her right leg has had 2 surgeries already, and her right brachial artery has been done as well. I just worry that this may be the surgery that takes my mom from me. She's all I have and I love her with all my heart. My stepfather died Jan. 13th, and it just makes it even harder emotionally. I'm going through so much since Feb, that it's just taking it's toll on me. Hopefully if mom has to have her surgery, I can be here with her. I have to attend to personal matters I wish not to discuss, on Sept, 21st and I don't know how long it will take me to be able to get back here and be here for my mom. Man, I just wish I could get a break, just once. I wish my mom wasn't in the condition she is in, but it's hereditary, and I have the same problems,....luckily I haven't had to have any surgeries yet, Thank The Lord. I want to move back to Austin, but I am torn because of my mom and her condition. I know I can't fix it, but I wonder if I should just remain here so I am here for her always. I miss my friends badly, and have no support system here really. No queer friends here that I know of, this town is so small you could call it Hee Haw Land.
UGH, I feel heartburn coming on.

lipstixgal · 09-04-2010, 04:49 AM

Well this dogs are up early and making noise so no sleep for me. I'm stressed out due to illness and the dogs just make it worse!! Gonna try to lay back down and see if sleep willl help!!

JustBeingMe · 09-09-2010, 12:03 AM

Got a huge weight lifted off my shoulders today. My moms angiogram came out really well. No blockages to her heart at all.
Doctor said her heart bypass from 22 years ago is still doing well and much better than expected. No surgery needed. This has lifted a huge amount of stress off me on top of my own personal issues going on. I feel somewhat relieved and grateful and thankful.
Now...........to deal with my own stuff beginning this month, and hopefully I can put that particular issue to rest and be done with it so I can move on to taking care of business in my own life.

JustBeingMe · 09-22-2010, 10:16 AM

Got another HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders Yesterday. I am finally no longer stressed over this particular issue. WOOOOHOOOoooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

girl_dee · 09-22-2010, 06:41 PM

I feel stressed out because I feel I want to be in two, three places at one time.

JustBeingMe · 10-06-2010, 05:05 PM

lipstixgal · 10-06-2010, 05:10 PM

Stressed due to new internship coming up tomorrow all day too. 9-5 pm I hope I can do it going to bed early too.

JustBeingMe · 10-07-2010, 11:42 AM

from way too much about what I'm going to do and how long it will take me to do it ........

princessbelle · 10-07-2010, 07:23 PM

My son's wedding is in two days!!!!

However, i did FINALLY buy a dress today. The rehersal dinner is tomorrow night and omg i hope i didn't forget anything.

Two days....hurry up so i can breath again.

And please let me remember what this is all about......my son, his wife and a beautiful new beginning....please let me remember to bring tissue..the tears are already forming.

Pixie · 10-09-2010, 10:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princessbelle

My son's wedding is in two days!!!!

However, i did FINALLY buy a dress today. The rehersal dinner is tomorrow night and omg i hope i didn't forget anything.

Two days....hurry up so i can breath again.

And please let me remember what this is all about......my son, his wife and a beautiful new beginning....please let me remember to bring tissue..the tears are already forming.

I hope it went well love, and you can breathe a sigh of relief on the other end.

dark_crystal · 11-22-2010, 10:51 AM

k long story short: the library building has been closed for HVAC upgrade. We have been running limited services out of the foyer and only needed about half of our usual staff. To make up payroll, each staff member was given 1 day of administrative leave and one day to work from home.

The work was finished Wednesday, but the decision was made to remain on limited service until our original planned reopening (today)

I did my work at home day this past Friday. My supervisor and i discussed this in detail, as my junior assistant came down with an ear infection on thursday and had to miss 2 days of work. I said "I am supposed to work at home tomorrow, but i can come in if i need to," "No, no, no," she said, "we have it covered"

This morning my boss came and told me- as a "heads up"- that i should have come in. The director told her that work at home days were only approved while the building was in transition, and that once the work was done i should have known that all previous arrangements were off.

"Butbutbut" i said, "the work was finished on Wednesday- i confirmed with you on Thursday! Why am i finding out on Monday that i am in trouble for an assumption i never thought to make on Wednesday- esp when you we talked about it on Thursday???!!!"

Her (exasperated) "You're not in trouble Jenny. I am just letting you know how the director's thought process works so you'll know better than to do this again.

"Do what??? Work at home because you specifically told me i could???"

"Just forget it, Jenny"

Kenna · 11-22-2010, 11:12 AM

Mom had her first stress-related stroke at the age of 40. .... I'm nearly 40 and, so far, have followed her footsteps with the Lupus.... wonder, given the situation, what the chances are for other similarities? It's something that's always on my mind.

Apocalipstic · 11-22-2010, 11:24 AM

Thanksgiving

09-02-2010, 04:09 AM	#141
nicetgurl_30 Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: AR Posts: 133 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 214 Times in 89 Posts Rep Power: 295940	The D-word [ Umm I work with elementary kids who go through this a lot. Of course there r web sites u can go to but a really good way to open things up just ask them. A good book is dinosaurs divorcE. Help them identify maybe if their tummy hurts after an argument it means this....or ask them what they think it means. Happy, sad,mad,scared? Then go from there. QUOTE=Stearns;148911]An acrimonious divorce between my brother and sister-in-law. Worry over how my niece and nephews (6, 7 and 9 y/o) are being affected. My brother saying things to them about their mom; the emotional abuse he heaps upon her. He is unreachable, unreasonable, unrepentant. My nephew throwing up after witnessing a horrific argument. Mental picture of the three of them huddled in the car, watching. Wondering what I can do, if I can do more. Regret at having moved - though only a state away - so far away. If I had only known.[/QUOTE]

09-02-2010, 04:45 AM	#142
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Just when I think the stress levels are dropping... I work in family law. Sometimes we have a person call for an appointment and when I do the conflict check it pops up immediately. Sometimes it doesn't. It all hinges on the information provided by the client or prospective client and I don't read minds. When I have to tell someone there is a conflict and we cannot meet with them I walk a very fine line because what I say cannot reveal confidential client information. I cannot tell someone "I'm sorry but Ms Attorney cannot meet with you. We have a conflict of interest because we have already met with your spouse." Being able to say that certainly would make my job easier. But no can do. When I do find a conflict I have to tell the prospective client "I'm sorry Ms. Attorney is unable to meet with you" and leave it at that. They ask me for more information and all I can tell them is that my attorney cannot meet with them. Yesterday I discovered a conflict before a potential client came into the office. After discussing it with my attorney the appointment was cancelled giving the usual cryptic explanation. The stress came to roost when a family member called demanding an explanation then called back screaming and I do mean SCREAMING at me about the situation and demanding an explanation. I gave the message to my boss and she will deal with it. I dread the phone and my office email today. Not looking forward to another tirade. Taking this personally is not something I do, but it is still an extremely unpleasant experience. I keep repeating to myself something my Mom said when I worked for her: "An attorney is not a bus. She doesn't have to stop and pick up every stray on the street." Looking forward to 9/12 when this retrograde ends. Last edited by Miss Scarlett; 09-02-2010 at 04:52 AM. Reason: Received citation from Grammar Police

09-04-2010, 12:57 AM	#148
JustBeingMe Senior Member How Do You Identify?: as ME Relationship Status: I don't need no stinking status. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: somewhere you're not..... Posts: 1,808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,961 Thanked 1,690 Times in 694 Posts Rep Power: 12813869	Stressed is not even a word that describes the meaning of what I truly feel lately. Mom has to have another angiogram due to her heart not getting enough oxygen and failing her stress test. My mom has had so many damn surgeries already it's not even funny. She has P.A.D. and high cholesterol, she's been on meds since her first surgery 22 years ago, when she was my age, 47...my bday is this month, so same age as mom on her first surgery. My mom died during her first open heart triple bypass, of which they had to revert to only doing a double, then the following year doing the other bypass surgery. She has plastic aorta in her stomach to both legs, and just had surgery in Dec for the 5th time to save her left leg, she now has plastic artery in that too. She has had both carotid arteries done, her right leg has had 2 surgeries already, and her right brachial artery has been done as well. I just worry that this may be the surgery that takes my mom from me. She's all I have and I love her with all my heart. My stepfather died Jan. 13th, and it just makes it even harder emotionally. I'm going through so much since Feb, that it's just taking it's toll on me. Hopefully if mom has to have her surgery, I can be here with her. I have to attend to personal matters I wish not to discuss, on Sept, 21st and I don't know how long it will take me to be able to get back here and be here for my mom. Man, I just wish I could get a break, just once. I wish my mom wasn't in the condition she is in, but it's hereditary, and I have the same problems,....luckily I haven't had to have any surgeries yet, Thank The Lord. I want to move back to Austin, but I am torn because of my mom and her condition. I know I can't fix it, but I wonder if I should just remain here so I am here for her always. I miss my friends badly, and have no support system here really. No queer friends here that I know of, this town is so small you could call it Hee Haw Land. UGH, I feel heartburn coming on. __________________ Nothing more, Nothing less, I'm Just Being Me

09-09-2010, 12:03 AM	#150
JustBeingMe Senior Member How Do You Identify?: as ME Relationship Status: I don't need no stinking status. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: somewhere you're not..... Posts: 1,808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,961 Thanked 1,690 Times in 694 Posts Rep Power: 12813869	Got a huge weight lifted off my shoulders today. My moms angiogram came out really well. No blockages to her heart at all. Doctor said her heart bypass from 22 years ago is still doing well and much better than expected. No surgery needed. This has lifted a huge amount of stress off me on top of my own personal issues going on. I feel somewhat relieved and grateful and thankful. Now...........to deal with my own stuff beginning this month, and hopefully I can put that particular issue to rest and be done with it so I can move on to taking care of business in my own life. __________________ Nothing more, Nothing less, I'm Just Being Me

09-22-2010, 10:16 AM	#151
JustBeingMe Senior Member How Do You Identify?: as ME Relationship Status: I don't need no stinking status. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: somewhere you're not..... Posts: 1,808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,961 Thanked 1,690 Times in 694 Posts Rep Power: 12813869	Got another HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders Yesterday. I am finally no longer stressed over this particular issue. WOOOOHOOOoooooooo!!!!!!!!!!! __________________ Nothing more, Nothing less, I'm Just Being Me

09-02-2010, 05:06 AM	#143
butchboi1999 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Outlaw Preferred Pronoun?: Whatever Relationship Status: I have a beloved Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 11 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 91	Wow, I am at this moment unbelievable stressed and angry. I feel like my partner lectures me on a lot of things. I lost my job two years ago when the company closed. Since then I have turned into a full time student and am working on two degrees. My partner is pissed because I am not working part time as well. It is not that I haven't tried, maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I get unemployment, so its not like I don't have money. Part of me thinks that she feels that it is unfair that I just come home and sit around all day while she has to work. Sure I come home, but I clean the house, prepare dinner, take care of the animals and I do school work. I am tired a lot because I have sleep apnea that is not under control (waiting for a doctor), so I have barely any energy. Gawd, I just feel this rage inside me, but I have learned to turn it into a cry, so I will just sit here and whimper.

09-02-2010, 09:33 AM	#146
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Suprisingly, this has me more stressed than I thought. Been fighting an anxiety attack for about an hour. Haven't had one of those since I was the one behaving badly. Now I find myself in a situation that I'm trying real hard not to influence, that may mean I loose someone very special. Just trying to get by with these shallow breaths, because an elephant's been on my chest for a while. LOL This too shall pass. A

09-04-2010, 04:49 AM	#149
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494761	Well this dogs are up early and making noise so no sleep for me. I'm stressed out due to illness and the dogs just make it worse!! Gonna try to lay back down and see if sleep willl help!!

09-22-2010, 06:41 PM	#152
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10-06-2010, 05:05 PM	#153
JustBeingMe Senior Member How Do You Identify?: as ME Relationship Status: I don't need no stinking status. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: somewhere you're not..... Posts: 1,808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,961 Thanked 1,690 Times in 694 Posts Rep Power: 12813869	__________________ Nothing more, Nothing less, I'm Just Being Me

10-06-2010, 05:10 PM	#154
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494761	Stressed due to new internship coming up tomorrow all day too. 9-5 pm I hope I can do it going to bed early too.

10-07-2010, 11:42 AM	#155
JustBeingMe Senior Member How Do You Identify?: as ME Relationship Status: I don't need no stinking status. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: somewhere you're not..... Posts: 1,808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,961 Thanked 1,690 Times in 694 Posts Rep Power: 12813869	from way too much about what I'm going to do and how long it will take me to do it ........ __________________ Nothing more, Nothing less, I'm Just Being Me

10-07-2010, 07:23 PM	#156
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	My son's wedding is in two days!!!! However, i did FINALLY buy a dress today. The rehersal dinner is tomorrow night and omg i hope i didn't forget anything. Two days....hurry up so i can breath again. And please let me remember what this is all about......my son, his wife and a beautiful new beginning....please let me remember to bring tissue..the tears are already forming. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

11-22-2010, 10:51 AM	#158
dark_crystal Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: jenny Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl Relationship Status: First Lady of the United SMH Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Houston, Texas Posts: 5,445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,532 Thanked 26,550 Times in 4,688 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	am i crazy??? k long story short: the library building has been closed for HVAC upgrade. We have been running limited services out of the foyer and only needed about half of our usual staff. To make up payroll, each staff member was given 1 day of administrative leave and one day to work from home. The work was finished Wednesday, but the decision was made to remain on limited service until our original planned reopening (today) I did my work at home day this past Friday. My supervisor and i discussed this in detail, as my junior assistant came down with an ear infection on thursday and had to miss 2 days of work. I said "I am supposed to work at home tomorrow, but i can come in if i need to," "No, no, no," she said, "we have it covered" This morning my boss came and told me- as a "heads up"- that i should have come in. The director told her that work at home days were only approved while the building was in transition, and that once the work was done i should have known that all previous arrangements were off. "Butbutbut" i said, "the work was finished on Wednesday- i confirmed with you on Thursday! Why am i finding out on Monday that i am in trouble for an assumption i never thought to make on Wednesday- esp when you we talked about it on Thursday???!!!" Her (exasperated) "You're not in trouble Jenny. I am just letting you know how the director's thought process works so you'll know better than to do this again. "Do what??? Work at home because you specifically told me i could???" "Just forget it, Jenny" __________________

11-22-2010, 11:12 AM	#159
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,196 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Mom had her first stress-related stroke at the age of 40. .... I'm nearly 40 and, so far, have followed her footsteps with the Lupus.... wonder, given the situation, what the chances are for other similarities? It's something that's always on my mind.

11-22-2010, 11:24 AM	#160
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