What do YOU need to feel loved?

Bubala · 12-07-2015, 10:26 PM

Just a little bit of time...

I'm independent. I'm a career woman. I'm intelligent and decently well educated. I'm a realist, I stand with my heels firmly on the ground. I can hold my own in the big boys business world out there. I take no BS and I do not back down.

Then again at the end of the day, when corporate lights go down, and our daily masks start to peal off, I make my way home. At the end of the day I am just a girl... I am a full blooded woman... I need you...

Pay attention, miss me....tell me that you've missed me... show me that you've noticed... Make me laugh, make me giggle like a little girl. Only you can make me giggle like that. Only you know the silly, crazy, stupid, childish side of me.

Talk to me, arouse my mind... calm my thoughts... Hold me like a child, hold me life a woman. Wrap your gorgeous hands around my waist and pull me in, closer, closer.... I want to hear your loud foreceful heartbeat. I want to inhale your scent. Disarm me with you gentle strength. Make me feel like a woman... I want to be loved, I want to be safe and protected, I want to be yours...your and no one else's. I want to be your girl, I want to be your lover, I want to be all woman for you...

That all... all I need to feel loved is just a little time...miss me, let me know you've noticed...Let me know you still care...

kittygrrl · 12-08-2015, 12:00 AM

kind, wise, love-unconditional, in sync

storyspinner70 · 12-08-2015, 12:02 AM

Don't ignore me. I am the quintessential babygirl in that aspect. My butch tends to tune me out:
1. because she doesn't multitask well
2. because I talk more than she is used to - or likes...lmao she's told me to shut up on more than one occasion. That I have no issue with.
3. because I need more of that type of attention than she's used to

But when she doesn't really listen to me it upsets me. I've always been like that. I'll even make people look right at me so I know they're listening to me if something is important. When she ignores me I feel...maybe not unloved, but unimportant. I know what she's like - this is my hangup, but it's a big one. She makes more of an effort to pay attention to me when I need it, and I make more of an effort to actually tell her "hey you need to stop ignoring me" and to accept her flaws instead of saying "I take her as she is, no matter what" but then actually not accepting who she is. I forget sometimes she can't read minds and has no idea what it's like to be needy in the way I am.

But there's so much else she does for me that I need: she takes care of me, she teaches me things I don't know, she makes me eat my vegetables when I come visit her cause my health actually matters, she makes me go to bed when I'm up at 4am when I shouldn't be, she reins me in when I get too cocky and arrogant, she loves me even when I'm unloveable, she ignores my sulking when I forget I'm not a jealous person and she puts me right back in line when I'm out of control.

These are the things I need to feel loved. One thing she mostly fails at. All the others, she mostly succeeds - better than anyone I've ever known.

JDeere · 01-26-2016, 08:31 PM

Little things, as I grow older I see that little things mean more than big things in the relationship but sex will always be a huge one for me.

12-08-2015, 12:00 AM	#2
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Til you believe Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wrapped in a shawl Posts: 9,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,732 Thanked 22,162 Times in 7,228 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	kind, wise, love-unconditional, in sync __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

12-08-2015, 12:02 AM	#3
storyspinner70 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: VA Posts: 355 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,366 Thanked 987 Times in 289 Posts Rep Power: 8681947	Don't ignore me. I am the quintessential babygirl in that aspect. My butch tends to tune me out: 1. because she doesn't multitask well 2. because I talk more than she is used to - or likes...lmao she's told me to shut up on more than one occasion. That I have no issue with. 3. because I need more of that type of attention than she's used to But when she doesn't really listen to me it upsets me. I've always been like that. I'll even make people look right at me so I know they're listening to me if something is important. When she ignores me I feel...maybe not unloved, but unimportant. I know what she's like - this is my hangup, but it's a big one. She makes more of an effort to pay attention to me when I need it, and I make more of an effort to actually tell her "hey you need to stop ignoring me" and to accept her flaws instead of saying "I take her as she is, no matter what" but then actually not accepting who she is. I forget sometimes she can't read minds and has no idea what it's like to be needy in the way I am. But there's so much else she does for me that I need: she takes care of me, she teaches me things I don't know, she makes me eat my vegetables when I come visit her cause my health actually matters, she makes me go to bed when I'm up at 4am when I shouldn't be, she reins me in when I get too cocky and arrogant, she loves me even when I'm unloveable, she ignores my sulking when I forget I'm not a jealous person and she puts me right back in line when I'm out of control. These are the things I need to feel loved. One thing she mostly fails at. All the others, she mostly succeeds - better than anyone I've ever known. __________________ So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. ― Jorge Luis Borges

12-07-2015, 10:26 PM	#1
Bubala Member How Do You Identify?: Lady Sunflower Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: San Fran Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 463 Thanked 1,671 Times in 615 Posts Rep Power: 9338277	Just a little bit of time... I'm independent. I'm a career woman. I'm intelligent and decently well educated. I'm a realist, I stand with my heels firmly on the ground. I can hold my own in the big boys business world out there. I take no BS and I do not back down. Then again at the end of the day, when corporate lights go down, and our daily masks start to peal off, I make my way home. At the end of the day I am just a girl... I am a full blooded woman... I need you... Pay attention, miss me....tell me that you've missed me... show me that you've noticed... Make me laugh, make me giggle like a little girl. Only you can make me giggle like that. Only you know the silly, crazy, stupid, childish side of me. Talk to me, arouse my mind... calm my thoughts... Hold me like a child, hold me life a woman. Wrap your gorgeous hands around my waist and pull me in, closer, closer.... I want to hear your loud foreceful heartbeat. I want to inhale your scent. Disarm me with you gentle strength. Make me feel like a woman... I want to be loved, I want to be safe and protected, I want to be yours...your and no one else's. I want to be your girl, I want to be your lover, I want to be all woman for you... That all... all I need to feel loved is just a little time...miss me, let me know you've noticed...Let me know you still care...

01-26-2016, 08:31 PM	#4
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Little things, as I grow older I see that little things mean more than big things in the relationship but sex will always be a huge one for me.