Bed Side Preference and Dominance

Jess · 01-30-2015, 12:27 PM

Aloha Y'all

I have to admit that when I first saw the title of this thread, my initial reaction was...

REALLY?!?!

Personally, my dominance is more reflected during what we "do" in bed as opposed to what side I sleep on. The responses here made me think, however, that there are often more considerations we make in even such simple things as "what side of the bed we sleep on". I generally sleep on the right and there is a list of reasons, primarily stemming from physical issues/needs and even those change over time.

I am willing to negotiate just about everything in my relationship except hard limit/deal breaker issues. The side of the bed isn't one of those...lol

I have fibro (among other issues) that often make me a less than sound sleeper (read: I move/roll around in bed a lot as I have to shift because I hurt). I sometimes snore. More often than not, I emit a pretty impressive amount of body heat (I have had partners who actually move as far away as they can after I am asleep and the furnace kicks in). I sometimes suffer insomnia and/or burning brain that won't turn off, so I fidget even more.

That being said, I am just grateful to be able to sleep in the bed with my lady as opposed to being sent to the couch...(LOL) which actually I have done myself in order to allow my mate to be able to get ample rest.

While I see no relevance in the notion of one side being an obvious choice for Dominant persons, this thread has sparked a few thoughts and I may return to expand on some. (I forget sometimes to get back to a thread, so.. not a promise or declaration.. just a maybe

Thanks for the brain candy MB.

01-30-2015, 12:27 PM	#11
Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	Aloha Y'all I have to admit that when I first saw the title of this thread, my initial reaction was... REALLY?!?! Personally, my dominance is more reflected during what we "do" in bed as opposed to what side I sleep on. The responses here made me think, however, that there are often more considerations we make in even such simple things as "what side of the bed we sleep on". I generally sleep on the right and there is a list of reasons, primarily stemming from physical issues/needs and even those change over time. I am willing to negotiate just about everything in my relationship except hard limit/deal breaker issues. The side of the bed isn't one of those...lol I have fibro (among other issues) that often make me a less than sound sleeper (read: I move/roll around in bed a lot as I have to shift because I hurt). I sometimes snore. More often than not, I emit a pretty impressive amount of body heat (I have had partners who actually move as far away as they can after I am asleep and the furnace kicks in). I sometimes suffer insomnia and/or burning brain that won't turn off, so I fidget even more. That being said, I am just grateful to be able to sleep in the bed with my lady as opposed to being sent to the couch...(LOL) which actually I have done myself in order to allow my mate to be able to get ample rest. While I see no relevance in the notion of one side being an obvious choice for Dominant persons, this thread has sparked a few thoughts and I may return to expand on some. (I forget sometimes to get back to a thread, so.. not a promise or declaration.. just a maybe Thanks for the brain candy MB.