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I prefer older women and the few I have gone on dates with have been older. I mean, at least ten years older, if not more. I imagine when I eventually want a relationship I’ll end up with someone older.
I think it makes sense in queer or same sex relationships.
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Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap.
Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal. |
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You know, I'm going to add a qualifier to that last line... I have been with people who could not keep up with me very well on the hiking trail, but I was just so darned grateful that they were out there with me at all. I love to be outside.
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I briefly dated a butch who was 20 years older than me. It was nothing but a great experience. I like a butch at any adult age, but have always had a thing for older butches.
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I've had a tendency to date younger women mostly because some my age act way too old....and I am very young at heart. I have experienced the comments "oh you are a dirty old butch"...why should I be perceived like that when men have been doing it for ages.
An age gap is not the gap to worry about, if we can relate, understand and enjoy life with each other what's wrong with that. There may be some life experience that we can't relate to, but I assure you that some younger women have experienced more than I ever will. So if she doesn't know a show called The Brady Bunch I'm okay with that as long as we both respect, care for and love each other isn't that all that really matters. |
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as long as u are attracted to each other enjoy !! I personally like to dance to the same beat. I find the greying of the temples and smile wrinkles very very sexyyyy ~ and the conversation ohhhhhhhh baby take me now lolol ~
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I have always enjoyed older femmes. In my culture/family I learned that age brings fullness of experience, out of this world sensuality, intelligence and beauty. Yes, the young can have these qualities as well, but really the fullness of time is what brings downright gorgeous elegance...Now, as I'm 65 soon to be 66yo I continue to enjoy older femmes...No judgement, but an older femme continues to do it for me. Now yes I run and am very active, so the older femmes that I engage with are not necessarily as active, but their intelligence is brilliant, and they love to dance need I say more? And they love to love in all the ways that we are compatible...Would I engage a femme in her fifties? Perhaps if she is completely in her life, but it would more likely be a femme in her sixties, seventies, and yes a gorgeous and elegant 80's. I once painted the portrait of a 97yo woman, who could tango the hell out of anyone younger, not to mention her sizzling intelligence, courage, and elegant tastes. She was straight so I did not pursue but...oh, yes it's the older femme for me! Greco |
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Agree with Salty about own age seeming to act much older. My Partner who is 5 years younger even feels older than I am. Also, the neighbor who is just 6 years older acts (and therefore looks) older than me.
Neighbor even feels older than my mom would be had she still been alive. I don't get it. All but those much younger find my music and nightlife intolerable. |
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I used to date older as in 10 or more years. Yeah didnt work.
Now i only want to date someone my age or 3 years older. |
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I Guess This Is A Timeless Thread
What matters is the connection. I have indeed been in live-in relationships with a femme 20 years younger than me and also with a femme who was born in the same year I was. I haven't been in a huge number of relationships but most of them have been near my age, but age differences work fine for me too.
Femmes of all ages are amazing and potentially someone I could have incredible relationship with - partner, friend, etc. I certainly would never say a femme was too old.
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My one lesbian relationship was with a woman 11 years my junior, and the age difference didn't matter a damn, despite my being in my early 30's and her being in her early twenties, so the percentage difference in age was huge.
I think it depends on the personalities involved. I wouldn't rule out dating someone in their twenties, so long as they were reasonably mature and there weren't any other problems (hey, I don't have the energy I once did!). And I certainly wouldn't rule out someone older! That said, in some respects I'm under-mature for my age, and look younger than I am, whilst being rather more decrepit than most would expect due to various medical oddities. My ideal is someone a bit more grounded than me, and better able to cope with those aspects of the world I find problematic, with integrity and a good sense of humour. Given those - I'm not too concerned about their age, so long as they are over 20! |
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Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..
I just could not kiss that age difference. But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !
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haha how tall are you?
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ALMOST always...
Its refreshing to find my height, or even close to it. ...😉
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Age difference.
I primarily date people older than myself. There's a confidence that comes from maturity I'm just drawn to...
My relationships with older partners are mostly drama free and as complicated as we choose to make them. If there's kids and my partner prefers to keep that part of their life separate, I'm not offended (and if they do, I understand they've had a whole life of their own before I showed up). Sex on a first date isn't taboo or anything more than being true to what we're feeling in the moment. ...and they're simply more fun to be with and around. The last butch I dated took me bowling on our first date - we didn't have to shout at each other over a club or be in the trendiest bar in town. We drank beers and bowled while I tried to look sexy in the silly shoes. Amazing. |
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Several months back, I was talking seriously with someone, not on this site, either!, who was 19 years my junior. While fun to talk with, and all, I found the maturity level differences to be too much, for me.
The age difference didn't bother her at all. I would have felt awkward in public, because, folks would "assume" I was the mom or grandmom, and I hate that when folks make assumptions! For me, and this is tried & true, I do well with someone 10 years younger, and no more or less! It is different for different folks, but I wouldn't ever date anyone older than me.
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Older women have always been my thing. But as I am ageing,five or less years younger than me works,but nothing under forty years.
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I can see the benefit of a gf 50 years younger than me as long as she can afford to pay for a therapist.
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Mines still the same!
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A 23 year old tried to pick me up at a bar a few months ago! I'm not making this up. I'm more than three decades older than she was. NO! I mean, HELL no.
I formerly dated women who were significantly older, but now the energy difference between elders and myself is usually, (but not always), just too large. I'm super-active and very fit. If I ever decide to date again it would ideally be a woman who is within 10 years of me in either direction.
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