What is your Flirtation Style?

[Girl_On_Fire]

Originally Posted by TheMerryFairy

My friend, a crush actually, is the same way *smiles* I love it. Everything is a puzzle to her and in turn she is a puzzle. She had me fascinated because I could never tell how she was feeling or what she was thinking due to her own confusion about my own expressions and things. You aren't unapproachable hny!

You just need to be you and someone will take interest in you and maybe be the one to approach.

Ha ha! I'm more approachable online I think. I carry myself like I'm 10 feet tall and bullet-proof. I'm a little thing but I'm mighty.

Actually, online flirting isn't hard for me. It's easy for me to use plain language and little emoticons. I don't have to "read" the person's body language or facial expressions. There's no guesswork. It's cut and dry. I've also been told I flirt all the time but I don't. I'm just kind and friendly to everyone and I guess it gets taken out of context sometimes.

Honestly, at this stage in the game, I don't want to be with somebody who doesn't have the guts to approach me. I'll drop a hankie so-to-speak but you gotta do the rest guys.

[TheMerryFairy]

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire

Ha ha! I'm more approachable online I think. I carry myself like I'm 10 feet tall and bullet-proof. I'm a little thing but I'm mighty.

Actually, online flirting isn't hard for me. It's easy for me to use plain language and little emoticons. I don't have to "read" the person's body language or facial expressions. There's no guesswork. It's cut and dry. I've also been told I flirt all the time but I don't. I'm just kind and friendly to everyone and I guess it gets taken out of context sometimes.

Honestly, at this stage in the game, I don't want to be with somebody who doesn't have the guts to approach me. I'll drop a hankie so-to-speak but you gotta do the rest guys.

I also understand that as well! I really like getting to know you That's right, it's no fun if you have to do all of the work. You are worth knowing.

I flirt friendly but I am also friendly to everyone so that means sometimes people mistake one for the other. I try to be as clear as possible to avoid mix ups.

I can see how online flirting can be easier than in person. It's easier to crush too probably?

[Kent]

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire

Ha ha! Oh my God, I'm so turned-on by cockiness and I know I shouldn't be. I don't know what's hot about some butch thinking hy's God's gift but if somebody did walk up to me and invite me to go home with hym that night, I wouldn't but I wouldn't be able to resist talking with hym for a bit. I like dominance but there's always that fine line. If you end up with somebody like that, do you end up having to deal with the massive ego for the duration of the relationship or is that just what hy leads with?

Oh, and I have no game. My problem is I can't read facial expressions and body language well so I'm never quite sure who I should be flirting with. A friend and I were just talking about this today. My problem is when I'm out at a club or something like that, I may see somebody I find attractive but I don't know how to subtly let them know that. I either look away because I can't deal with the uncomfortable eye contact or I smile in a kind of weird way because I'm nervous....I dunno. I've been told I'm unapproachable but I'm not sure how to be approachable without, I don't know, overdoing it. So yes, flirting is a big puzzle for me.

Girl_On_Fire:

A smile and eye contact works.. It lets the butch or guy you like know you are receptive and hy/he can approach you..

Kent

[Girl_On_Fire]

Originally Posted by Kent

Girl_On_Fire:

A smile and eye contact works.. It lets the butch or guy you like know you are receptive and hy/he can approach you..

Kent

If I can relax my mouth enough to actually smile and not grimace this could work. lol! Thanks!

[TheMerryFairy]

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire

If I can relax my mouth enough to actually smile and not grimace this could work. lol! Thanks!

My friend uses this trick - wearing sunglasses. Maybe not in a club but it works so she can look in a general direction of a person, even making it seem like she's keeping eyecontact but really she is looking off to the side. It might help you relax.

[Kent]

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire

If I can relax my mouth enough to actually smile and not grimace this could work. lol! Thanks!

Girl_On_Fire:

Try the eye contact first and you may not even notice that you are smiling before you know it.. Try it..

[Angeltoes]

I have flirted very openly with butches at work with my eyes and smile. Honestly, I have had some look at me like I'm crazy, but the interesting thing is when they start to hover around my desk and try to get the eye contact back after I give up. Part of me wonders if they just didn't believe I'm gay and another thinks their ego misses the attention. Either way, I often hear butches say 'I'm shy.' Well, hey, I'm a shy person too. It hurts a femme just as much as it hurts a butch to put herself out there and be rejected.

[JustBeingMe]

Originally Posted by Angeltoes

I have flirted very openly with butches at work with my eyes and smile. Honestly, I have had some look at me like I'm crazy, but the interesting thing is when they start to hover around my desk and try to get the eye contact back after I give up. Part of me wonders if they just didn't believe I'm gay and another thinks their ego misses the attention. Either way, I often hear butches say 'I'm shy.' Well, hey, I'm a shy person too. It hurts a femme just as much as it hurts a butch to put herself out there and be rejected.

yes it does hun. yes it does. you stated that very very well , thank you soo much.

[Chad]

This thread looks fun.
I will not give up all my secrets but I will start here.

When I see (or read) someone that I find interesting I introduce myself and just start talking to them.

[homoe]

In real time, I'll start with a smile then more than likely strike up a conversation with them.

[Wrang1er]

I tend to use humor...perhaps I need to reevaluate this approach.

[Chad]

I have been thinking about the flirting statement below because I do the exact same thing when I want to make a new friend.

I guess the difference would be the conversation topics.
For example, conversations on golf verses romance.

Originally Posted by Chad

This thread looks fun.
I will not give up all my secrets but I will start here.

When I see (or read) someone that I find interesting I introduce myself and just start talking to them.

[Nattih]

My flirting style is trying to telepathically communicate that I like them and getting mad when they don't get the message. Hehe.

[TL1]

Originally Posted by Nattih

My flirting style is trying to telepathically communicate that I like them and getting mad when they don't get the message. Hehe.

LOLLLL

Cute!

[Shystonefem]

Ok... so, I have this look. If I am interested and you can see me, you know.

I am pretty shy so someone would have to start the conversation but that someone would definitely know.

Also, my body language. I am pretty good at that.

When I was a teenager, my friends used to make me go to the beach with them. If they liked some group of guys.... they would ask me to give them "the look". They ended up picking them up and I always went home alone. LOL

If I like you and we are in RL, you know......

[Angeltoes]

Awkward. The more strangely I behave the more I like someone haha. *forever alone*

[Kelt]

My style?

Obtuse.

In both directions.

It's a good thing I like being on my own.

[easygoingfemme]

Hm, kind of depends on the energy I have going with the person but generally it will fall into categories of:

Humor, joking around
Eye contact
Forgetting to do any of that and blurting out a blunt "hi, I like something about you. Can we explore that?"

[jingles76]

Humor....Works on me . Might as well try it on others lol

[jingles76]

[QUOTE=Wrang1er;1035995]I tend to use humor...perhaps I need to reevaluate this approach. [/QUOT

Wrangler. You had me at knock knock lol